Broken Heart Hurts So Much? Here’s What You Can Do
When we feel the pain, we want to move on as fast as possible. We want to heal right now, we don’t want to feel the pain for one more second. We wish it was all a bad dream and that we woke up and everything disappeared. But life doesn’t work like that. When we love someone and we break up, it takes time to realize it. It takes time to accept the new reality, the change of our life.
Today I want to share some insights about the pain and give you more motivation to be more patient. Because it’s a truly hard period and you can ease your pain with the right attitude. Remember that healing starts from the mind. Our mind can help us heal or can make the situation more complicated. It all depends on your attitude toward the situation.
You were with your ex for some months or years. You have real feelings, you have memories, you had experiences. All of those won’t disappear in one day, it’s impossible. You are going through a roller coaster. The best thing you can do is to understand that a deadline doesn’t exist. There’s not the last date when you must forget your ex and feel good. It will take you as much time as it will take you and you don’t need to rush yourself.
When you put a deadline on your feelings or when they need to disappear, you add stress to the situation. You increase your anxiety and make the healing process harder and longer. You have to understand it will be with you for a while. It will disappear, I don’t know when because it changes from one to another, but you will feel better. “Everything heals. Your heart heals. The mind heals. Wounds heal. Your happiness is always going to come back. Bad times don’t last.”
Another important thing to understand is that it’s not white or black. It’s not that you feel the pain and feel bad or you don’t feel the pain and feel amazing. There are a lot of phases and days where you will feel the pain but in a weaker way. There will be days where you feel some hope and motivation.
You will have ups, you will have downs, it’s not a straight road. But you will be moving forward no matters what as long as you don’t give up. The pain is real but as time passes and as you invest more in yourself, you will feel less the pain, you will think less of your ex and you will start changing your life and rebuilding yourself.
One last thing I want to say is that don’t think of the pain as a bad thing. I mean, a breakup is something bad, no one wants it, and no one wants to feel horrible. But it happened to you, maybe you broke up with your ex because you didn’t have any other option or maybe they broke up with you. But this is the reality, you can suffer and let the pain affect every single piece of your life, or you can say:” Okay, right now I’m hurt, but it’s temporal. Let’s see what I can learn from it and how I can grow and improve myself.”
A breakup is a lesson, a painful lesson but a lesson. You can learn from it so many things that will make your life much better in the future. Think of the pain as a fact, something you will feel for a while even if you don’t want to. So, the best thing you can do is to get the maximum from the situation. When we are hurt, we grow the most. We learn from our mistakes, from our choices, from our ex, from our relationship. “Know that pain will pass, and when it does, you will be stronger”.
Your pain is going to be a part of your life for the following weeks or months. Embrace it, accept it, grow from it. It’s temporal, it will gradually disappear, I don’t know when and you neither. Be optimistic because good times are about to come.
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