Do You Think Your Ex Was Perfect? This Is For You

Many people don’t value themselves enough, they blame themselves for the breakup, they think their ex was perfect. And today I want to explain why it’s wrong and why you shouldn’t think that way.

To have a healthy relationship, you need two people. If you think your relationship was perfect it’s okay to think so but don’t think it’s only because of your ex, it’s also because of the person you are. If you think your ex was perfect, it’s because you considered them like that. You can have a healthy and happy relationship where only one side gives, where only one side tries his best to make things work out.

After a breakup is very common to forget things, to suddenly forget all the bad things that were in the relationship, all the things you didn’t like, and all the things that eventually brought to the separation. It’s common to consider your ex as perfect, flawless. And if your ex is perfect and the relationship failed, it’s must be you who caused that. It’s completely wrong.

When you idealize your ex, it’s hard to forget. No one wants to forget the perfect one, no one wants to blame him nor to say bad things. But to move on, you have to face reality. You have to be honest with yourself and be aware of what didn’t work out, why it failed, where your ex didn’t do his best.

Take a paper and write down all the things you didn’t like about your ex, about your relationship. Your goal is to realize your ex wasn’t perfect because no one is. You have to take less responsibility because it will help you feel relief and move on faster. You can’t only blame yourself. And even if you’re completely sure your ex was perfect, and yet remember that they decided to leave you.

Instead of working together to improve the relationship and fix things that didn’t work, they decided to give up on you and leave. You deserve to be with someone who fights for you. This is the most basic principle of healthy love. You both want to be together, if one side doesn’t want it, you deserve more, you shouldn’t stay in such a relationship.

The next time you think about the relationship and your ex. Think about it neutrally. You will discover that it’s not all your fault. Even if you made mistakes, you’re a human and it’s normal to make them. More important is that you decided not to give up and your ex gave up. This is the difference.

Remember that your goal is to give your everything in the relationship. But if you gave and it wasn’t enough, it was the wrong person for you. Never judge yourself for being you and giving all you have.

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