You and your first love just broke up, you feel hopeless, you don’t know what to do and you ask yourself will I ever be able to move on and love again? The answers and the way to move on is right in this article.
First breakup? It’s can be tough
Moving on after breaking up with first love is a tough thing to do. I remember when it happened to me, I didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t want to go to sleep, not to eat, just nothing. I remember myself crying all day without any progress. First love is something new, everything that you experience is new, every kiss, every moment together is a new moment, every feeling is a new feeling. Then, out of the blue, the breakup arrives and it also the first time it happens to you, you feel for the first time in your life what is the pain of love. The most difficult thing we have to go through is the fact our reality has changed. Suddenly the person with spoke with daily isn’t in our life anymore. Suddenly we want to share something good with the person and we can’t. Everything reminds you of that person and you have to change your habits completely.
The first step everyone goes through is sadness, You are just sad, you cry all day, you may be angry. You blame your ex, you are afraid, you ask yourself so many questions, you don’t know what to do, what not to do, what to say, what not to say. You want to call your ex, one day you miss them the next day you hate them. It’s like a roller coaster and you think like you are going crazy.
accept the reality, accept the pain. Okay you broke up, yes it hurts and no it’s not gonna disappear in one day. But I can promise you it will disappear and you will be able to feel happy and love again. At this moment the best thing you can do is accepting reality. I don’t mean you need to be happy because you broke up, I don’t ask you to forget your ex and you don’t need to think the pain is good. It sucks, let’s not lie, it sucks and it hurts but this is what it is and soon you feel be better, don’t be dramatic. Everyone after a breakup and especially after a first breakup feels the pain. Everyone feels the pain at his levels, but the pain is real for everyone. Let the pain be and accept it.
Your relationship wasn’t perfect
Another thing I ask you not to do is to think your relationship was perfect, because if you think so it will be so hard to move on. You love your ex right now and therefore you try to think only about his good characters and the good thing you had in your relationship. But be honest with yourself, there are no perfect relationships and yours wasn’t perfect. Your feelings won’t disappear overnight and the memories will always be there but in order to move on you have to be honest. See your relationship as it really was, with the good and the bad sides.
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