It’s Time To Forgive Your Ex
People think there are only two options, or you love your ex, or you hate your ex. People believe that if they hate their ex, it will be easier for them to stop loving them and eventually forget them. When someone thinks that what preventing him from moving on are the feelings he has towards his ex, he’s right. When you have feelings it’s hard to move on, but the big thing is that it doesn’t matter if you have positive or negative feelings for your ex, as long as you have feelings it will be hard to move on.
When you don’t care about something you can forget it, you can move on and it’s not important to you. Hate is a strong feeling, also anger. When you hate your ex or you’re angry with them, you keep them in your mind. You think about them, you give them the importance and you continue to let them be part of your day.
When you hate someone, you hold into negative memories, negative thoughts. It takes a lot of energy. You more than probably end your day tired and frustrated. Hating your ex won’t help you think less about them, they are still important and therefore you will think a lot about them.
Even if you’re right and your ex did something really bad. Even if you believe you should hate them and should be angry with them. It won’t help you. When you want to heal your broken heart, you have to do the things that will help you move on and not the things that seem to be fair. Life isn’t fair, I wish it were, but it’s not. Your goal right now is to do your best in the current situation and make yourself happy as fast as possible.
My advice to you in this situation is to let go, forgive. If you have negative thoughts about your ex, don’t try to fight them. Let them be, forgive your ex. You have to understand that when you forgive, you do it only for yourself. Because you will be able to let go of the anger, you will make the situation less painful, less complicated.
When you try to make things simple, they are less significant for you. It will be easier to move on, it will be faster to heal your heart and it will improve your physical situation. When you’re full of anger, you will be more anxious, more stressed. It hurts your body, it affects your appetite, your sleeping routine, and will make the healing process harder. You have to stay calm and relaxed. Forgiving is one of the most important elements after a breakup.
To forgive someone not just in a theoretical world but also for real. You can take a piece of paper and write a letter. You can write there everything you have in your mind but keep the idea that you’re doing it for yourself. For you to feel better, to feel relief. Tell your ex you forgive, you don’t hold into it anymore, you don’t want to hate. You want to close that part of your life and focus on the present, in the future, on rebuilding yourself.
Hating someone is not the solution, not because they deserve to be loved. But because you deserve to let go of things, you deserve to bury the past and grow in the present. Forget and forgive, just for yourself.
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