Should you speak with your ex or not?

The answer is simple, NO! You shouldn’t. You have to try to avoid any contact with your ex as strong as you can. The main problem is that people underestimate how dangerous can contact with your ex be. You can say: “I only speak with my ex and I understand it’s over, what’s the problem?”

What is the problem?

Your mind works with associations when your mind sees an image or listen to a song, it brings a lot of memories. Some of the memories are good, some are bad, some are happy, some are sad, some make you cry, some make you smile, and some are just natural. There are a lot of kinds of memories. The problem with memories, especially at the beginning of the breakup, is that they cause you to think about your ex. Doing so blocks you from moving on.

Of course, some memories will come anyway and you can’t avoid them all.

To move on as fast as possible, the first step is to avoid contact with your ex. That means no social networks, no Facebook or Instagram, no phone calls or WhatsApp, and more than it, no meetings. If it’s possible, hide all the gifts and images you have from your ex. I am not saying you must throw them all away but at least hide them.

But I have to see my ex

If you have to see your ex anyway because you are in the same social circles, or the same job or school. Try to speak with them only on what you must but no more than that. If you work at the same work, speak about work and that’s it.

I know it’s really hard to do all the things I described, it feels childish and can make you feel guilty. But in your situation, it’s time to think about yourself, your future, and how to rebuild yourself. Being friends with your ex or speaking with them will just make your way to happiness longer and harder. You have to decide between yourself and them and I believe that it’s time to think about yourself.

Avoid any contact with your ex and prevent the memories as much as possible because it’s your time to work on yourself, on your future, and not to live in the past. You can win nothing being a friend of your ex, so don’t.

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