Want To Heal Your Broken Heart? Invest In Yourself
Today let’s talk about you, how you can help yourself, how your attitude toward yourself will affect your healing process, and what you can do. It’s important because you are the main factor that will determine how fast you will move on and I am sure you want to do it as fast as possible.
You have to decide
The first and the most important thing you have to do is to decide. Decide you want to move on, you are ready to do it, and you know you have to let go. I can get give you all my tips and information you will need but if you don’t make the decision, you won’t implement those ideas, you will give up when things are getting harder. Maybe it sounds like something easy or simple, but the truth is that deciding to move on and to let go is hard. It’s something brave you have to do. Because when you let go, it means you accept you won’t return to your ex, it means the hope of getting back is gone, it means you will have new life without the ex you love. But you have to do it, you have to do it because it’s the first step of your journey, without that step you will stay at the same place and this can be so frustrating. You need to understand that healing a broken heart is all about decisions, for example, you can decide to block your ex on Instagram and not to see his images anymore, you can and you can also not to block and to look at the images, but it will take you 20 steps backward.
I think it’s one of the most difficult things I have done, giving up on the hope that the person I loved would come back, but it was the best thing I did and I ask you to do the same, it’s crucial for you. It’s not easy, it was revealed that getting over a broken heart is like “kicking off an addiction”. Stop smoking and stop texting your ex are related, more than you might be thinking. A broken heart results in a sharp decrease in Dopamine which is why we feel so lonely and sometimes depressed. When you are in love you feel good but when it’s over you still want from this good, you are used to it. You want your ex just exactly as someone who smokes wants the cigarette even though he knows it hurts him. This is exactly why you have to be as strong as you can and do your best to fight against it. And this is why it’s so important for you to decide you are ready and you want to move on. Remember that “you’re always one decision away from a totally different life”. Take the time you need to accept the reality, rest, and then go will full power and start your new journey with a decision.
Know your worth
The next thing you have to do is to know your worth. I am sure you are amazing, and I am sure you know that too but maybe now after the breakup, you think differently. It’s normal when someone we love leaves us, to feel less, and to blame ourselves. For me the breakup was an amazing lesson, I learned so much from it and became a better person. In the beginning, it was really hard to accept, and I was scared, scared to move on, scared of the future. But one day I decided enough is enough and I decided to move on. At the end of the process, I became a stronger person, a better person, with more self-confidence and more self-esteem. I understood how amazing I am. Now it’s your turn to understand how amazing you are, it’s your turn to learn, improve, work, fight, and do what makes you feel better and happy. Start treating yourself better, sleep, and eat well, exercise, read books, take care of your future. Invest in yourself and in your relationships with people who love you. Be nice to yourself, be full of compassion, don’t judge yourself. Start loving yourself because you will live with yourself till your last day. Also, when we think about the future, and about your next relationship, the best thing you can do for yourself and your future partner is to love yourself, invest in yourself, and improve yourself. There’s a quote I want you to hear:” Make yourself a priority once in a while. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary”. This is an amazing quote you need to implement. Now it’s time to think about yourself and improve yourself.
Don’t afraid to ask for help
Humans have 2 main supportive systems: time and environment. We can’t control time and we don’t want our healing process to depend on something we can’t control. Let’s focus on the environment- our friends and family. Surround yourself with people who support you and are there for you. Just as many people prefer to travel together so they can share experiences. Or people love to study together because they can help each other. You have to focus on yourself and you want your close ones to help you. Explain to them what you feel so they can relate and feel compassion and let them help you. You don’t have to do it alone. It’s important to see, hear, and feel only good. Don’t be afraid to take some distance from people who judge you or don’t understand. If something or someone in yourself makes you feel bad, go away from it. Tory Bruch once said:” Having an environment that is supportive is really important for success” and I agree. Surround yourself with love
Let’s Connect
Do you feel lonely? Do you feel like no one understands your pain? I have good news for you, you’re not alone! There are so many people who are in your place and this why I created a supportive community. Join our amazing Facebook group and connect with others who try to heal their broken heart. You will also get access to more information, tips and my personal support. Click here to join the group!
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