Your Ex Doesn’t Matter

Banuel Dogayman
2 min readJul 25, 2020

Your ex doesn’t matter, stop acting like they are. A lot of people try to give their ex too much attention. I want to explain why your ex doesn’t matter, it’s your time to shine and to focus on yourself.

Your ex isn’t in your life anymore

Many times when I give tips to someone they don’t do it, why? Not because they don’t like it, not because they think it won’t work, but because they think what their ex will think about it. They think if their ex like it or not. This is crazy for me… your ex isn’t in life anymore, why would you give them the power to decide what you can do in your life today.

Stop doing things you think your ex will love and stop not doing things you think your ex won’t love. Your life is your life, after a breakup you have to think about yourself and be happy. So please do whatever you need to be happy, don’t let your ex decide for you, especially when they aren’t in your life anymore. You can be angry with your ex, you can feel hurt, you can feel confused, it’s normal. But none of these feelings mean you have to satisfy your ex because you don’t.

Their lives are their lives

Another thing you should stop doing is thinking about your ex’ life. I don’t care if your ex has a new girlfriend or your ex has returned to her ex-boyfriend and you shouldn’t care either. They are free people and they can do whatever they want, you have no right to prevent it. I am sorry I can’t tell you the words and sentences you want to hear, but I’m here to tell you the truth because I care about you and I want you to heal your broken heart. To so, you have to think only about yourself and the people who are in your life. Your ex isn’t in your life, they are part of the past so please leave them there, in the past. Your ex was a huge part of your life, so it’s normal their opinion was important, but not anymore.

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